Don has left us, credential in hand. The Dean who first headed our Master of Liberal Arts program made sure of it, made sure Don got his diploma. Sometimes, in some ways, there is justice in this world. There’d be a lot more, if there were more people like Don.
He was kind, caring, civically engaged (constantly writing letters to the editor and encouraging others to do likewise, working tirelessly on behalf of causes he believed in like expunging Nathan Bedford Forrest’s disgraced name from our ROTC building), and the very epitome of a Lifelong Learner. He knew instinctively and implicitly what John Dewey meant when he said education is not preparation for life, but life itself.
He was a decade ahead of me. My goal now is to possess and express a fraction of his curiosity and enthusiasm in 2030. Just being here then won’t suffice.
Just a decade, but I find myself experiencing almost-filial feelings of loss that remind me of my old dad’s departure over a decade ago.
Shortly before my father’s passing in 2008, I sat down with him and talked about things I’d long postponed. Then I read to him from an 1882 letter William James sent from abroad to his father on learning of the latter’s illness:
“Darling old Father,
…We have been so long accustomed to the hypothesis of your being taken away from us, especially during the past ten months, that the thought that this may be your last illness conveys no very sudden shock. You are old enough, you’ve given your message to the world in many ways and will not be forgotten; you are here left alone, and on the other side, let us hope and pray, dear, dear old Mother is waiting for you to join her. If you go, it will not be an inharmonious thing. Only, if you are still in possession of your normal consciousness, I should like to see you once again before we part… though we have often seemed at odds in the expression thereof, I’m sure there’s a harmony somewhere, and that our strivings will combine. What my debt to you is goes beyond all my power of estimating,—so early, so penetrating and so constant has been the influence… —As for the other side, and Mother, and our all possibly meeting, I can’t say anything. More than ever at this moment do I feel that if that were true, all would be solved and justified. And it comes strangely over me in bidding you good-bye how a life is but a day and expresses mainly but a single note. It is so much like the act of bidding an ordinary good-night. Good-night, my sacred old Father! If I don’t see you again—Farewell! a blessed farewell! Your WILLIAM.”
Don got his message out, I think. And the best case for dreaming of “the other side” I can think of is the prospect of talking to him again. But like my own dad, Don’s going to be with me for the rest of my life.
Our last communication:
Donald Enss
Sun, Feb 14, 1:12 PM (10 days ago)
to me
Dear Dr. Oliver,
Happy Birthday!
Don
Phil Oliver
Sun, Feb 14, 2:11 PM (10 days ago)
to Donald
Thank you, Don. You’ve inspired me to make the most of the years ahead.
And I’m not the only one.
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